10 Common Habits that Destroy Your Confidence
Patricia Love

There’s no doubt that confidence is key to success in life. However, many people fail to recognize that certain habits they may have are slowly destroying their confidence levels.

If you find yourself struggling with self-confidence, take a look at the following ten habits that could be to blame.

You always Focus on Your Flaws

Either you’re too thin or you’re too curvy. Your hair is never right. You can never find clothes that fit just right. This habit can quickly destroy your confidence because it leads you to believe that you’re not good enough as you. (FYI, you are good enough just as you are.)

Comparing Yourself

It’s easy to look at the next person and think we don’t measure up. This is a foolproof way to kill your confidence because there’s always someone smarter, prettier, richer, more successful, etc. Be you, girl.

No Goals or Ambitions

Going through life without any purpose is a destroyer of confidence. So instead, start setting some goals for yourself and working towards them, however small they may be. Having something to strive for gives you a sense of direction and helps boost your confidence.

Letting Other People Control Your Life

You will never be content if you let other people take the reins and control your life. Their goals, values, and beliefs are likely not aligned with your own. Consequently, you’ll always feel like you’re falling short in some way. If you want to be confident, you have to take control of your life and make your own decisions.

Bystander Syndrome

Finding yourself in a situation where someone else is not confident, and you watch and do nothing to help is bystander syndrome. If you see someone who looks like they could use a confidence boost, take a minute to say something nice to them. It can make their day.

Hiding Who You Are

If you are constantly hiding your true self and pretending to be someone else to make others happy, then you will never be able to be fully empowered. So instead, be proud of yourself and let the world see the real you.

Toxic Friendships

These relationships can make you feel like you’re not good enough and can cause you to doubt yourself. Take action and get out. It might be difficult, but it’s necessary for your well-being.


If you are always bragging about your accomplishments or importance, you come across as arrogant and conceited. If you want to be confident, it’s important to strike a balance between healthy self-esteem and arrogance.

Playing the Victim

Life can knock us down, and we feel like we can’t get back up. But wallowing in self-pity won’t make anything better. Playing the victim only destroys your confidence because it keeps you from taking control of your life and taking action to improve your situation.

Not Practicing Self-Care

When we’re stressed, tired, or busy, it’s tempting to push through and tough it out. But neglecting our own needs can be a bad habit that destroys our confidence. When we prioritize self-care, we send the message that we’re worth taking care of.The ConfidentU app has so much information about getting rid of these bad habits and transforming your daily life. Download it today to find out more and set yourself up for greatness. Click here for more Confident Blogs.

Keep Shining.


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As an active Realtor®, and in sales for 45 years in Washington State, Patricia coaches women in sales to “Refuel” by turning their “I Can’t” into “I Can.” She interrupts the negative behaviors that have sabotaged them and helps them create a new path towards positive results. Albert Einstein once said “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results.”

Patricia’s own story of trauma, death, and a slew of bad decisions as a young adult, forced her to flip her own inner script, or face alternative consequences. By interrupting and healing the negative behaviors that sabotaged her, she was able to find the courage, and new found energy to move forward in all areas of her life. She did this with the action of five words.

These inspiring words created her Exclusive Diamond Method”, as Patricia believes we are all a diamond in the rough, just waiting to shine! So, begin the healing, and shine bright like a diamond.

Contact Patricia to start the new life so you too, will shine!

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