Do you feel yourself growing distant from your partner? Has everyday chaos made your relationship a part of the background? Try these 10 things to bring your man closer to you!
10 Things That Can Bring Your Man Closer To You
There is no relationship in the world that does not experience any difficult phases in its course. Every couple goes through some unique challenges of their own as the relationship progresses. There are always a few bumps along the road. And arguably, they can even add to the beauty of being in a committed relationship with someone.
However, when you have been stuck in the same rut for a while, it is neither fun nor healthy. Being in the wrong place with your significant other for very long can have lasting negative impacts on the entire relationship.
This is what can have you go from being the happy couple everyone envies to two bitter individuals nobody wants to be. But luckily, there are ways you can keep that from happening.
Tip#1 – Relationships Need Work From Both Sides
I always say that both parties have an equal effort if they want to keep a relationship going. If either you or your partner starts taking things for granted, a downward spiral into relationship hell becomes inevitable. This is why #IChoose to be an active participant in all of my relationships – romantic or otherwise.
Tip#2 – Keeping The Flame Alive – What Can You Do?
So, what can you do to bring intimacy and warmth back in your relationship? How can you bring back the spark that kept things fun with you two? Well, here are some things I have learned from my past relationships.
I would like to reinstate that these are merely little tips and tricks I have picked over from my personal experience from dating men. I noticed that when #IChoose to employ thoughtful gestures like in the paragraphs below, it always led to happy times.
Here is to hoping these can help you find the excitement you had for each other when you first started dating. Let’s begin.
Tip#3 – Make Your Greetings Meaningful
If you have been feeling distant from your man lately, I suggest paying attention to your greetings. How do you say hello or goodbye to each other? Are you always in a hurry, or do you take your sweet time?
Think of the many times you greet each other in a day. All of these times are an excellent opportunity to bring something special in your day. By making your hellos and goodbyes meaningful, you can make sure that you stay on your partner’s mind for a while. This helps breed intimacy and closeness between a couple.
Hugging for five seconds or a short kiss is a beautiful way to greet your partner. By introducing physical proximity in your greetings, you can bring the two of you emotionally closer in the long term.
Tip#4 – Let Him Know He Is On Your Mind
You are head over heels in love with your partner. You love them, care for them, and wish you can be together all the time. But if you keep the sentiment inside you all the time, your significant other will never really understand how deeply you feel for them.
However, not all of us are made for substantial public gestures of affection (more on these later). But even then, it does not mean that we have to keep our feelings bottled up. A great way to let your feelings known to your partner while not being embarrassingly public about them is sending them texts.
Send a small, loving message to your man a few times in the day. Let him know he is on your mind even when you two are apart. This simple thing can make your significant other feel extra special and bring the two of you even closer.
Tip#5 – Small Acts Of Service Go A Long Way
While it is always good to voice your feelings for your partner, acting them out can also let your partner know how special they are. And no, we are not talking about waiting on your significant other hand and foot. We are suggesting that there are small, loving acts of service that you do not require you to go long out of your way to achieve.
The next time you’re up early, make an extra cup of coffee for your partner before heading out. An occasional breakfast in bed situation, giving your partner feedback on their latest chapter, and taking their car to be washed all work great.
These small favors bring you closer to your man and mean that you will probably be getting these pleasant surprises! In my opinion, it is a win-win situation for both of you!
Tip#6 – Take Out Time To Do Mundane Things Together
As time passes by, most couples begin to search for fun and exciting things to do together. They think that by going skydiving or by diving off a cliff, they can make things more interesting. It is most often these exhilarating experiences they look to bring the magic back in their relationships.
While these may work for some, for others, these are just means to fill a void. When you go together to a thrilling experience, most of the room is taken by adrenaline. This leaves very little space for you and your partner. I have discovered that boring activities are sometimes way better at bringing the man I am dating closer to me.
By doing mundane things together, you leave room for deep conversations between the two of you – which brings us to our next point.
Tip#7 – When You Hit A Bump, Talk It Out
I have always talked about how communication is key to a healthy relationship. This becomes even more important when a couple falls into a particularly rough patch. It is inevitable to hit a few bumps along the road, but how #IChoose to react is all that makes the difference.
It can be tempting to give your man the silent treatment when things aren’t exactly going the way you intended. However, if you want something to work out, you should always talk about the elephant in the room.
Doing this can have you getting over the bump with an even stronger bond than when you first hit it.
Tip#8 – The Occasional Grand Gesture Is Always Nice
Remember how we talked about sending each other loving messages throughout the day? Well, if your partner appreciates public gestures, you can do them one better. Be bold in your admission of love. A grand gesture of love is a great way to win your man’s heart! Who says it’s always the men in the relationship who are supposed to do this?!
Tip#9 – Remember That Positivity Always Outnumbers The Negativity
It is incredibly important, to be honest about your partner’s shortcomings. This helps them grow and become a better person. But if your relationship consists of all negativity and no positivity, it is natural to start to feel distant from your man.
Therefore, while you let your man know where he has fallen short, make it a point to appreciate him where he did good. Validating your partner’s efforts at making your relationship better is always essential.
Tip#10 – Plan Your Future Together – And Update The Plans!
Talking about the future can be intimidating, but it can also be an enjoyable thing to do. If you are invested in your relationship, do not shy about discussing the future with your partner. This lets you know what both of you expect from your relationship and brings you closer together.
- Identify the needs of your man
If none of the above tips sound something that your man will particularly appreciate, try to identify his individual needs. Find out what he likes and adapt your treatment accordingly. This can be organizing a party to celebrate his promotion, or giving him the confidence to participate in a cooking competition. Trust me, this will be the greatest loving act you do for your partner!
- Allow both of you the space you need
Lastly, try not to go overboard with trying to bring your man closer to you. Remember, absence makes the heart grow fonder. And besides, you would not want to seem desperate or be taken for granted by the man you are with, would you?
Hence, allow both of you the space you need to be on your own. Sometimes, it is best to do nothing (or even tone down your efforts), and have your partner naturally come back to you. Every healthy couple has two individuals who know when to give the other person the space they need.
Wrapping It Up
Have you ever tried any of these tactics to save your relationship from sinking? Which of these work for you, and which of these were a total waste of time in your opinion? Let me know in the comments below!