7 Things About Confidence That Will Surprise You
Patricia Love

Have you ever heard someone say something like, “She’s so confident.” & you secretly thought, “I am confused because I don’t know what they mean”?

7 Things About Confidence That Will Surprise You

Confidence is a quality that is often lauded, especially in women. We are told that we need to be confident in order to be successful, and that confidence is the key to achieving all our goals. But what exactly does confidence mean? And what should it mean for women?

All too often, confidence is conflated with cockiness or arrogance. Women are told that they need to be confident in order to be taken seriously, but that they shouldn’t be too confident lest they come across as bossy or pushy. This is a false dichotomy; confidence and arrogance are not the same things. Confidence is about believing in oneself and one’s abilities, while arrogance is about putting oneself above others. A confident woman is not necessarily a woman who thinks she knows everything; rather, she is a woman who is perfectly comfortable and confident in her own skin and believes she has something valuable to contribute.

The truth is that confidence is something that comes from within. It cannot be bestowed upon us by others; rather, it is something we must cultivate ourselves. And it doesn’t mean that we always have to know the answers or have everything figured out. Rather, confidence means being okay with not knowing all the answers and being open to learning new things. So if you’re looking to build confidence, start by being gentle with yourself and accepting that you don’t have to always be perfect to be worthwhile.

There’s a lot of talk about confidence lately. It seems like everyone is trying to find their confidence, but what does that actually mean? A lot of times people mistake confidence for cockiness or arrogance. In this post, I’ll break down seven things that confidence doesn’t mean. Keep reading to find out more!

 Thinking You Don’t Have Any Flaws

Too often, confidence is mistaken for arrogance. Just because someone is confident, it doesn’t mean they think they’re perfect. In fact, confidence actually comes from knowing and accepting your flaws. It is about having the courage to be yourself, even when you’re not sure if other people will accept you. This situation is especially true for women, who are often taught to doubt themselves and their abilities. Confidence is about trusting your own instincts and being brave enough to follow them. It’s about speaking up and being heard. And above all, it’s about believing that you’re worthy of happiness and success. Next time you see a confident woman, remember that her strength doesn’t come from thinking she’s perfect. It comes from knowing she isn’t – and being okay with that.

 Not Caring What Others Think

Confidence is not about never caring what others think. In fact, confidence is often rooted in caring very deeply about what others think—but trusting that you are worth their respect and admiration anyway. For example, many women who are confident in themselves have fought hard to earn that confidence. They’ve dealt with gender discrimination and bias, and they’ve had to work twice as hard as their male counterparts to prove their worth. As a result, they know that they are just as capable and competent as anyone else—and they are not afraid to show it. So when someone tries to tell them that they “shouldn’t be so confident,” they simply smile and keep on going. Eventually, at the end of the day, confidence is about knowing your own worth—regardless of what anyone else thinks.

 Being Self-Absorbed

Confident women have always been a source of inspiration. From early pioneers to modern-day legends, confident women have blazed trails and broken barriers. Actually, what does it really mean to be confident? Unfortunately, confidence is often confused with self-absorption. To be confident does not mean that you think you are better than everyone else. It does not mean that you are always the center of attention. It certainly does not mean that you never experience doubt or insecurity.

Confidence is about having faith in yourself and your abilities. It is about being secure in who you are, even when the world is telling you that you are not good enough. It is about knowing that you are worthy of love and respect, no matter what other people may think or say. When you are confident, you are able to show up fully in life, unapologetically yourself. And that is a beautiful thing. Believe in yourself can do anything you set your mind to.

 Thinking That Nothing Bad Will Ever Happen To You

There is a common misconception that confident women are immune to fear and doubt. Nothing could be further from the truth. Confident women are fully aware of the potential for bad things to happen, but they refuse to let fear control their lives. Instead, they live with intention and purpose, knowing that they have the inner strength to handle whatever life throws their way. In other words, confidence does not mean thinking that nothing bad will ever happen to you. It means having complete faith in yourself and your ability to overcome adversity. Next time you find yourself doubting your own strength, remember that confident women have faced their fears and come out stronger than ever on the other side. You can do the same.

 Worrying About Rejection

Confident women don’t spend their time worrying about whether or not they’ll be rejected. They know that they’re worthy of love and respect, and they go after what they want without fear. Instead of agonizing over every little detail, confident women focus on enjoying the moment and living their best lives. They’re confident in themselves and their abilities, so they don’t waste time second-guessing their decisions. When it comes to relationships, confident women aren’t afraid to put themselves out there and take risks. They know that rejections are a part of life, and they don’t let them get in the way of their happiness.  If you’re tired of spending your days worrying about being rejected, remember that confidence is the key to success.

So, don’t let anyone tell you that confidence is a bad thing. It’s not. But, it doesn’t mean what most people think it does. Confidence is an amazing tool that can help you achieve your goals- as long as you use it in the right way.

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Patricia Love

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As an active Realtor®, and in sales for 45 years in Washington State, Patricia coaches women in sales to “Refuel” by turning their “I Can’t” into “I Can.” She interrupts the negative behaviors that have sabotaged them and helps them create a new path towards positive results. Albert Einstein once said “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results.”

Patricia’s own story of trauma, death, and a slew of bad decisions as a young adult, forced her to flip her own inner script, or face alternative consequences. By interrupting and healing the negative behaviors that sabotaged her, she was able to find the courage, and new found energy to move forward in all areas of her life. She did this with the action of five words.

These inspiring words created her Exclusive Diamond Method”, as Patricia believes we are all a diamond in the rough, just waiting to shine! So, begin the healing, and shine bright like a diamond.

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