How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others: 7 Practical Strategies to Grow Self-Love
Patricia Love

Comparisons are only sometimes negative. Sometimes we do it to motivate ourselves. The problem arises when we use comparisons to form inaccurate opinions about ourselves.

“Oh, she’s married and I’m not. That means I’m not desirable or worthy.”

“She has a great job, and I’m only a cashier. Therefore, I must be lazy and unambitious.”

Thus, begin a toxic cycle of self-doubt and low self-esteem. If you don’t act fast, you’ll start comparing your life to others in unhealthy and destructive ways.

So how do you break this cycle? By building and growing self-love. Self-love means loving yourself for who you are, where you’re at, what you’ve accomplished, and for the person you want to become. It doesn’t mean being perfect or having everything together.

Here are my seven no-BS strategies for building self-love that you can start with today.

1) Look at Yourself Objectively

We all have flaws and imperfections. But if you’re constantly looking for them, they’ll make you forget yourself. So instead, think about your strength and skill. But don’t lie, either. For example, admit it if you need to improve certain aspects of your life.

2) Start Practicing and Living in Gratitude

Write about what you are grateful for each day in your gratitude journal. This simple gratitude experiment can boost positive thinking even during difficult times.

3) Use Your Past Self as a Benchmark to Compare Yourself With

It doesn’t matter if your friend gets married before you or your colleague gets a promotion before you do. Think about what you can do today to better yourself tomorrow. That’s the only thing you should be concerned about.

4) Permit Yourself to Make Mistakes

Mistakes are part of life. Please don’t beat yourself up over them. Instead, use them as opportunities to challenge your creative energy.

5) Be Aware of Your Triggers

Mental health matters. Pay attention the next time the self-loathing starts creeping inside you.

Is there something happening around you that triggers these feelings? Maybe you have a toxic person in your life. Whatever it is, please take note of it. Then ask yourself what you could do differently to avoid those situations.

6) Stop Looking for Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Be Happy

Accept it: you are a good person. You deserve happiness. There are no reasons why you shouldn’t have all the good things life can offer. So go ahead and chase your happiness.

7) Do One Thing That Boost Your Confidence Every Day

Perhaps you have words of body-positive affirmations taped on your mirror. Or you play a video of an inspiring Ted Talk. Whatever works for you, just do one thing every day that can lift your confidence and help you refocus.

Ready to shine and let the world see the real you? Click here to claim your copy of 5 Steps To Ignite Your Confidence. My book is an all-access tool to help you attract abundance in all areas of your life, from relationships, and career, to health & fitness.

Trust me. Once you reach your full potential, you will no longer see yourself as less than others. Instead, you will finally know true self-worth.

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As an active Realtor®, and in sales for 45 years in Washington State, Patricia coaches women in sales to “Refuel” by turning their “I Can’t” into “I Can.” She interrupts the negative behaviors that have sabotaged them and helps them create a new path towards positive results. Albert Einstein once said “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results.”

Patricia’s own story of trauma, death, and a slew of bad decisions as a young adult, forced her to flip her own inner script, or face alternative consequences. By interrupting and healing the negative behaviors that sabotaged her, she was able to find the courage, and new found energy to move forward in all areas of her life. She did this with the action of five words.

These inspiring words created her Exclusive Diamond Method”, as Patricia believes we are all a diamond in the rough, just waiting to shine! So, begin the healing, and shine bright like a diamond.

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