Tips on Finding Your Confidence
Patricia Love

Have you ever felt like you have lost trust and confidence in yourself? At the lowest times in your life, it’s a struggle to rebuild your crushed self-confidence. You may be wondering, how do you build your confidence back after you have lost trust or confidence in yourself?

Knowing where to start rebuilding our self-confidence can be challenging. But building confidence is essential for both personal and professional success.

If this is your situation now, this article is for you! I will provide helpful tips on regaining trust in yourself and moving forward with your life. So, if you’re ready, then read on.

Understand Why You Lost Trust in the First Place

First, ask yourself, what made you lose trust in yourself? Trust is often lost due to a betrayal or hurtful event. Therefore, it is essential to understand what happened and why it shattered your self-trust and self-confidence. This can help you move on from the event and prevent it from happening again.

A long-term setback can cause you to feel like your entire foundation has been shattered. If you doubt the possibility of progress now, do not worry— this is a normal feeling, and it will pass. At this stage, you may start to question your strengths.

Take Small Steps to Regain Trust Gradually

Here are some ways to start regaining trust in yourself:

Confide in a friend:

If you have lost trust in yourself, getting an outside perspective from someone you admire may help. Talk to someone you trust about what happened. Ask them if they have ever had to overcome self-doubt and what techniques they used to maintain their confidence.

A trusted friend can offer a valuable perspective and help you work through your feelings. They can provide support and encouragement as you try to rebuild your confidence.

Identify your core values:

Rebuilding your confidence also includes understanding what you consider essential. What values do you hold dear? Defining your values will allow you to make choices that align with those values. This can help give you a sense of control over your life, giving you more confidence in the choices you make and the things you prioritize.

Start small:

When you are ready to start rebuilding your confidence, it is essential to start small. First, pick something you know you can do. For example, you can set a goal to get up early to take a walk or even write a journal. Take baby steps until you have built up your confidence again.

The progress of rebuilding your self-confidence solely depends on you. Hence, remember to start small. Build up slowly so you don’t feel overwhelmed. Setting small, attainable goals yields excellent outcomes and will make you feel better about yourself.

Celebrate your accomplishments:

It’s important to celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small they may be. Doing so will help you see your progress and remind you that you are capable of great things.

Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes and Forgive Yourself for Them

As they say, “to err is human.” As humans, mistakes are inevitable! Do not beat yourself up for your mistakes.

When you make a mistake, it’s essential to learn from it. Do not dwell on it, or it will only weigh you down. Dwelling on your mistakes will hold you back and make you feel worse about yourself.

A great way to start rebuilding your confidence is to allow yourself to make mistakes. We are all humans; we all screw up at some point. Even celebrities, priests, and politicians make mistakes! Hence, you shouldn’t let those mistakes define you!

Instead, forgive yourself, learn from your mistake, and move on.

Be Patient with Yourself

It’s also essential to give yourself time to heal and recover from the situation that caused you to lose trust. Building your confidence back up is a process that takes time. So be patient with yourself. Rome was not built in a day. Even the famous La Sagrada Familia is still undergoing construction after hundreds of years.

In the same way, building your confidence will take time. So, take it one day at a time and know that you can get through this. You got this!

Challenge Yourself

Stepping outside of your comfort zone is another great way to rebuild confidence. Challenging yourself helps you learn new things, meet new people, and expand your horizons. It can be anything from speaking up in a meeting at work, taking a different route to work, or signing up for that dance class you’ve always wanted to try—practically anything!

Do not be afraid to try new things and step up. You will be surprised by how this improves your self-confidence.

Daily Confidence Boosters

Here are some things that can help you boost your confidence daily:

  • If you need to do something, get it done and do it well.
  • Monitor your progress. Don’t be caught in the web of “busy doing nothing.” One tip for monitoring progress is quantifying your achievements.
  • Exercising is a great way to boost confidence. Daily exercise not only benefits your health but also improves focus and retention.
  • Stay resolute with your decisions. Asking for people’s opinions is necessary sometimes, but follow your decision. Do not be swayed by what other people say.
  • Give back to society by doing random acts of kindness. This will make you feel good about yourself and boost your confidence.
  • Maintain a confident pose when speaking. Lean forward, maintain eye contact with your audience, and move into the crowd if you have a small gathering.
  • Recognize that people are not perfect. You are imperfect, and that’s okay!


We all have those days when we lack self-confidence. Whatever the reason is, remember that everyone has insecurities and moments of self-doubt. The key is not to let these moments define you.

Finding confidence can be a difficult journey, but it is worth taking. By following these tips we mentioned above, you will be well on your way to rebuilding your confidence! I wish you the best in your journey to rebuild trust in yourself. More confident building blogs.


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As an active Realtor®, and in sales for 45 years in Washington State, Patricia coaches women in sales to “Refuel” by turning their “I Can’t” into “I Can.” She interrupts the negative behaviors that have sabotaged them and helps them create a new path towards positive results. Albert Einstein once said “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results.”

Patricia’s own story of trauma, death, and a slew of bad decisions as a young adult, forced her to flip her own inner script, or face alternative consequences. By interrupting and healing the negative behaviors that sabotaged her, she was able to find the courage, and new found energy to move forward in all areas of her life. She did this with the action of five words.

These inspiring words created her Exclusive Diamond Method”, as Patricia believes we are all a diamond in the rough, just waiting to shine! So, begin the healing, and shine bright like a diamond.

Contact Patricia to start the new life so you too, will shine!

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